To trust someone is simply to rely on them. To trust someone means that I believe they will say, do, act or behave the way I expect them to. Do we always achieve the desired results when we trust? No. Simply because expectations often end up in frustrations, the other side may not even know that we put a great deal of trust in them. How to fix it?

I always trusted people but I never asked them if I could trust them, just because I trusted them. It is my nature to trust. I offer a credit of trust to all new people I meet in life, and why not? This attitude allows me to be open to them, their views and ideas.

To have success in trusting people we have to ask them if we can trust them on a particular matter. Why? This way we give them a chance to decide whether or not they will take on the responsibility. This is so much better than assuming they will do what we expect them to do. When we ask them, we give them the choice and power to decide, and it is a deal where both parties are aware of the intentions and choices of the other.

Each thing and matter requires asking, “Can I trust you on this?” A friend whom you trust to keep your secrets may not necessarily be relied on to repay your loan. When someone says, “Yes”, they make a conscious choice that triggers responsibility. Awareness of their responsibility affects their performance and outcome in a positive manner.