Here is a different look at sex. What does sex mean? Sex means exchanging energy, energy we all need to live. It happens on different levels, through touching, fondling, kissing and ultimately through intercourse. In an ideal world, we would have a partner and as much sex as we want or need, but what to do if that's not the case? Remember, sex happens on different levels. What if you wake up in the morning feeling weak, without even having the energy to get up? Well, you sure need sex! *smiles* What to do then? Look around and find something that you love, maybe a teddy bear, your favorite pillow, anything really as long as you love it. Take the item in your hands, bring it closer, and you will instantly feel better because an exchange of energy has just taken place. It is sex through touch. You can also stroke your pet if you have one and love it. Love is a component which opens the channel for the energy to flow. Kids have sex through touch all the time. Observe them as they keep coming to their parents now and then just to get a hug. Then they go away without being aware of the process since it is done on impulse just to get the energy.

I think, by nature our mind is always open. It is like a sponge, gathers and remembers all the information it encounters. Sadly, most of it goes to the subconscious level. On the conscious level we make choices, we pick what we like and discard what we don't. Do we really? As I said, the mind gathers everything, even the things we don't like, accept or agree with. They all stay as seeds/data in our subconscious and when the right time comes, suddenly (sometimes years later) we change our mind about things and matters. Something we did not accept in the past becomes normal at the present time. Such changes may be sudden or as a conscious process when we gradually see, accept and understand that the person, event, thing, matter etc. we did not agree with was good, true, right or valid.

Commonly, having an open mind means willing to listen and acknowledging what is heard. We don't have to agree with what we hear.

Cultivating openness of the mind requires patience, tolerance and many other qualities. I think it is not really easy to do that on the conscious level. We show open mind toward people we agree with but easily loose our patience and close our mind when we face a person who presents views we don't accept.

Here are 3 definitions of the soul from The Spirit's Book / Introduction by Allan Kardec:

"There is another word of which it is equally necessary to define the meaning, because it is the keystone of every system of morality, and also because, owing to the lack of a precise definition, it has been made the subject of innumerable controversies; we refer to the word soul. The divergence of opinion concerning the nature of the soul is a result of the variety of meanings attached to this word. A perfect language, in which every idea had its own special term, would save a vast deal of discussion; for, in that case, misunderstanding would be impossible.

Some writers define the soul as being the principle of organic life, having no existence of its own, and ceasing with the life of the body. According to this purely Materialistic belief, the soul is an effect, and not a cause.

Others consider the soul as being the principle of intelligence, the universal agent, of which each being absorbs a portion. According to them, there is, in the entire universe, only one soul, which distributes sparks of itself among all intelligent beings during their life; each spark, after the death of the being it has animated, returning to the common source, and blending again with the general whole, as brooks and rivers return to the ocean from which they were produced. This opinion differs from the preceding one, inasmuch as, according to the latter hypothesis, there is in us something more than matter, something that remains in existence after our death; but, practically, it is much as though nothing remained of us, since, no longer possessing individuality, we should retain no consciousness of our identity.

According to this hypothesis, the universal soul is God, and each being is a portion of the Divinity. It is a species of Pantheism.

According to others, again, the soul is a moral being, distinct, independent of matter, and preserving its individuality after death. This acceptation of the word soul is certainly the one most generally received; because, under one name or another, the idea of a being that survives the body is found as an instinctive belief, and independently of all teaching, among all nations, whatever their degree of civilization. This doctrine, according to which the soul is a cause and not an effect, is that of the spiritualists."

These are very interesting definitions. My understanding of the soul is closest to the third one but also includes some elements of the second definition.

Soul means a matrix of all activities, all activities originate from the soul. What does it mean in practice? Soul prepares a program before taking birth. It includes all the key points or goals for the next life and that means all achivements are being prewritten in that program.

Soul does not know how it will get from point A to point Z in life. The path depends on the free will. Just like in life we have a choice to use a train, a bus, our car or we choose to walk to get to our destinations. Similarly, a soul will make choices in life to move from one goal to another. The choices may not always be the easiest or the fastest paths possible but surely always right for that soul.

Summerizing, once soul is born, it follows the program but it forgets about writing it. Free will is only within HOW we get from one point to another in our life, not IF we get there, it does not affect the goal itself.

A doubt is a lack of faith or unstable faith in ones own abilities, skills, strength, power etc.

Each fall or absence of success confirms my shortcomings and in this way maintains my doubts about myself.

Doubts throw me out of balance and bring chaos and anxieties. Doubts paralyze my activities and that, in effect, greatly influences the success of my undertakings. It may even cause me to give up some tasks.

Doubts also appear everywhere I do not have sufficient or full knowledge; they weaken my effectiveness.

It is good to ask myself the following questions prior to beginning anything:
- Do I have everything I need?
- In what areas do I have doubts that stop me from being effective?

Answering these questions makes me aware of the doubts. Doubts are very elusive in nature but asking questions about them puts them up against the wall and then they reveal everything. Once I identify the doubt, I can resolve it. This means, for example, gaining more knowledge, gathering necessary things to complete the task or asking additional questions. Once this is done self-confidence replaces the doubt.

I think humility is not a very popular quality these days. Being humble for some reason for many people means being a loser. In the modern society it is expected to be cool and confident and humility is somehow understood to be the opposite of these qualities.

In my life I had many opportunities to learn and practice humility. Humility kept me in line and on my best behavior, made me a good listener and strengthened my patience.

My views on humility have changed or rather deepened when I discovered the essence of it. I have understood that humility helps me to gain knowledge, to accept knowledge easily. Humble attitude opens me up to receiving what someone else has to say and removes any doubts that I might have had.

Humility helps the knowledge flow. Humble person is able to accept 100% of the knowledge presented to him. That means humility works for us. When we want to learn something all we have to do is to be humble to learn faster and easier. It is in our own interest to have this quality and use it as needed.